Dear Beverly

Just stopped by on this rainy Friday to say hello.

           Mi Amor, you remembered me.

Always.

Gloomy day, but no sad tunes today.

I gotta chase those blues away

Chase those blues away

A smile from you would do that.

          Smile.

Have a tune for you today from 1972 … enjoy.

The Gallery: It's So Nice To Be With You

Oh, it's so nice to be with you
I love all the things ya say and do
And it's so nice to hear you say
You're gonna please me in every way
Honey, I got the notion
You're causin' commotion in my soul

Baby, you and me have got somethin' that's real
I know it's gonna last a lifetime
Aww, ya better believe it, girl
At night I call your name
Darkness fills my room, I'm only dreamin'
About the time I'm gonna be with you

Oh, it's so nice to be with you
I love all the things ya say and do
And it's so nice to hear you say
You're gonna please me in every way
Honey, I got the notion
You're causin' commotion in my soul

When I'm feelin' down
You're there to pick me up and help me to carry on
Aww, little things mean a lot
When you need a shoulder to cry on
I'm there to ease the pain and chase away the rain
Aww, darlin', I just gotta say

Oh, it's so nice to be with you
I love all the things ya say and do
And it's so nice to hear you say
You're gonna please me in every way

Oh, it's so nice to be with you
I love all the things ya say and do

And it's so nice to hear you say
You're gonna please me

Dear Beverly

Stopped by to say hello.

           You remembered me.

Always.

Tomorrow, no sad songs
Tomorrow the sun will shine
But today, it is sad and gloomy.

Have a tune for you today ... enjoy

Cassadee Pope: Over You 

Weather man said it’s gonna snow
By now I should be used to the cold
Mid-February shouldn’t be so scary
It was only December
I still remember the presents, the tree, you and me

But you went away
How dare you?
I miss you
They say I’ll be OK
But I’m not going to ever get over you

Living alone here in this place
I think of you, and I’m not afraid
Your favorite records make me feel better
Cause you sing along
With every song
I know you didn’t mean to give them to me

But you went away
How dare you?
I miss you
They say I’ll be OK
But I’m not going to ever get over you

It really sinks in, you know, when I see it in stone

Cause you went away,
How dare you?
I miss you
They say I’ll be OK
But I’m not going to ever get over you

Dear Beverly

Just stopped in to say that you are in my heart and on my mind.

             Mi Amor.   You remembered me.

Always.

Your Boys.
Your Boys in Blue.
Your Los Angeles Dodgers.

How you loved them and baseball.

Keeping score and checking out the schedule each year for the Bobble-Head promotions.

How sweet.
How endearing.

Pink(sssss)berry, Tunes and Dodger Bobble-Head Dolls.
You in a nutshell.

           Smile.

Have a tune for you today ... Kenny Chesney's latest, enjoy.

"I've been waitin' for you ... I've been lookin' for you."

Found in you my heart.

Kenny Chesney: El Cerrito Place

I been hangin' round this place, I been lookin' through your space
I've been waitin' for you, I've been waitin' for you
All the places that you go, all the people that you know
I've been lookin' for you, I've been lookin' for you

And all these pretty people up on El Cerrito Place
They all got somethin' in their pockets, all got somethin' on their face
They roll down to La Brea where it meets the boulevard
Singin' hallelujah while they dance over the stars
They all say they're goin' far

Me I've been lookin' for you baby, I've been lookin' for you baby
I've been lookin' for you baby, I've been lookin' for you baby
All night long, all night long, all night long

Someone said they might have seen you where the ocean meets the land
So I've been out here all night lookin' for your footprints in the sand
Did you hear the ocean singing, baby did you sing along
While you danced out in the water to some ol' forgotten song,
Were you even here at all?

Me I've been lookin' for you baby, I've been lookin' for you baby
I've been lookin' for you baby, I've been lookin' for you baby
All night long, all night long, all night long

Somehow I wound up in the desert just after daylight
Where the Joshua Trees grow that little place you always liked
These pioneer town people ain't got too much to say
And if you ever were here baby they ain't givin' you away

Now it's been two days
I'm still lookin' for you baby, I've been lookin' for you baby
I've been lookin' for you baby, I've been lookin' for you baby
All night long, all night long, all night long

And all these pretty people up on El Cerrito Place
They all got somethin' in their pockets, all got somethin' on their face

Someone said they might have seen you where the ocean meets the land
So I've been out here all night lookin' for your footprints in the sand

Think I'll go back to the city, back to El Cerrito Place
That's the last time that I saw that pretty smile upon your face
I've been lookin' for you baby   

Dear Beverly

Stopped by to say hello.

         You remembered me.

Always.

Love and Honor.

When a human being,
makes no difference if man or woman,
stands naked before the world
that is all that remains.

Love and Honor.

Take away the trappings of
wealth, power and prestige,
the "things" that mark their lives
and what then remains?

If not Love and Honor,
then what?


If these two things,
Love and Honor,

are not within them,
then what are all of the
other things worth?


"How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye" ... so true.
The voice on the phone, "just wanted to hear your voice one more time."
I didn't know it was "goodbye."

"I could have missed that pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance"



Have a tune for you today ... enjoy.

Garth Brooks: The Dance


Looking back on the memory of
The dance we shared 'neath the stars alone
For a moment all the world was right
How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye

And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Holding you I held everything
For a moment wasn't I a king
But if I'd only known how the king would fall
Hey, who's to say you know I might have chanced it all

And now I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Yes, my life is better left to chance
I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance

Dear Beverly

Just stopped by to say hello.  
You are on my mind and in my heart this morning.

           Oh Doll, you remembered me.

Always.

A gloomy Monday.  
Gray skies as far as the eye can see.

Can't help but be down in the dumps, just a little.

Have an appropriate tune for you today.
Loved how they weren't songs, but "tunes" to you.

How anyone could have hurt you escapes me.
All you every wanted in life was to be loved.

The Carpenters: Rainy Days and Mondays

Talkin' to myself and feelin' old
Sometimes I'd like to quit
Nothing ever seems to fit
Hangin' around
Nothing to do but frown
Rainy Days and Mondays always get me down.

What I've got they used to call the blues
Nothin' is really wrong
Feelin' like I don't belong
Walkin' around
Some kind of lonely clown
Rainy Days and Mondays always get me down.

Funny but it seems I always wind up here
with you
Nice to know somebody loves me

Funny but it seems that it's the only thing to do
Run and find the one who loves me.

What I feel has come and gone before
No need to talk it out
We know what it's all about
Hangin' around
Nothing to do but frown
Rainy Days and Mondays always get me down. 

Dear Beverly

Just stopped in to say hello.

          Mi Amor.   You remembered me.

Always.

The Ohio State University beat Michigan in a close game.
Missed it ... was in bed all day with a nasty bug.
A truly nasty bugs.   Yuck.

Have a tune for you today ... an oldie, enjoy.

Platters: Smoke Gets in Your Eyes

Baby,
They asked me how I knew
My true love was true
I of course replied
"Something here inside
Cannot be denied"

They said someday you'll find
All who love are blind
When your heart's on fire
You must realise
Smoke gets in your eyes

So I chaffed and I gaily laughed
To think they would doubt my love
Yet today, my love has flown away
I am without my love

Now laughing friends deride
Tears I cannot hide
So I smile and say
"When a lovely flame dies,
Smoke gets in your eyes."

Dear Beverly

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Just stopped in to say hello.

       You remembered me.

Always.

Big game this morning.

Michigan vs The Ohio State University.

I know it wasn’t your thing.

Dodgers; you boys; your boys in blue.

That was your world.

Have a tune for you today … enjoy.

The Police: Every Breath You Take

Every breath you take
Every move you make
Every bond you break
Every step you take
I'll be watching you.

Every single day
Every word you say
Every game you play
Every night you stay
I'll be watching you.

Oh can't you see
You belong to me?
How my poor heart aches with every step you take.

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you.

Since you've gone I've been lost without a trace.
I dream at night, I can only see your face.
I look around but it's you I can't replace.
I feel so cold, and I long for your embrace.
I keep crying baby, baby please...

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you.

Every move you make
Every vow you break
Every smile you fake
Every claim you stake
I'll be watching you...

Dear Beverly

Good morning, just stopped by to say that you are in my heart and on my mind.

           Oh Doll, you remembered me.

Always.

Thanksgiving with family.

Wondered how you would have spent the day.

It would have been a day to have your kids with you.

A chance to smile.

A chance to laugh.

A chance to talk and catch up on things.

 

A chance to say, “I love you.”

A chance for them to say, “I love you, mom.”

A chance … a chance … a chance, no longer.

Have a tune for you today … enjoy.

Big & Rich: That's Why I Pray

Oh oh oh oh, oh oh, yeah

Man on the TV’s gone insane, everybody’s just laughing
People ’cross the world holding on
The earth caved in, the ocean came down crashing
My neighbor lost his house ’cause he can’t find a job
Don’t you dare pledge allegiance, don’t you dare speak of God
Speak of God
Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh!

Now I’m begging for forgiveness
I wanna make a difference even in the smallest way
I’m only one person, but I can feel it working
I believe in better days
That’s why I pray

Some stupid video posted as a joke, somebody’s life gets ruined
Out of everything we can create
Where is the cure to keep the sick from losing
Babies having babies ’cause their parents are always gone
Somehow we have forgotten how to make a house a home
How to make a house a home
Oh! Oh! Yeah! Yeah!

I’m begging for forgiveness, I wanna make a difference
Even in the smallest way
I’m only one person, but I can feel it working
I believe in better days
That’s why I pray, yeah
That’s why I pray, yeah

These demons from my past haunt me every night
And I just can’t get through it
If I could forget them on my own, I’ll let go and just move on
But heaven knows I am only human

And that’s why I pray, yeah yeah
That’s why I pray, I pray, I pray, I pray

Yes I’m begging for forgiveness

Dear Beverly

Just stopped in to say hello.

            Mi Amor, you remembered me.

Always.

Happy Thanksgiving.
Happy indeed, letter arrived yesterday.
All is well.   You'd be happy to hear that.

It's all good.  It's all good.

Have a tune for you today ... enjoy.

Sugarland Tonight

If words could make it real I'd tell you how I feel
Instead I'm waiting here on my knees, love
I know how it feels to breath with you beside me
I think about it always

Tonight, tonight, tonight
I'm waiting for, waiting for the night
Tonight, tonight, tonight
I'm waiting for, waiting for

A lifetime for a day would be an even trade
No price I wouldn't pay for your heart, love
I know how it feels to breath with you beside me
I think about it always

Tonight, tonight, tonight
I'm waiting for, waiting for the night
Tonight, tonight, tonight
I'm waiting for, waiting for

Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight

Tonight, tonight, tonight
I'm waiting for, waiting for the night
Tonight, tonight, tonight
I'm waiting for, waiting for

Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight, tonight
Tonight, tonight, tonight

Dear Beverly

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Just stopped by to tell you that it is a beautiful morning.

        You remembered me.

Always.

Last night I was talking with a lady

She said that mornings for her are the hardest

She showed the signs of age

Lines in her face … wisdom.

The mornings are when I remember him most.

It has been a year, but I still miss him everyday.

That’s what she said to me. 

I nodded in agreement.

Have a tune for you today

A fun one about a beautiful mornin’ … enjoy

The Rascals: It's a Beautiful Morning

It's a beautiful mornin', ah
I think I'll go outside a while
And just smile
Just take in some clean fresh air, boy!
Ain't no sense in stayin' inside
If the weather's fine, and you got the time
It's your chance to wake up and plan another brand new day
Either way

It's a beautiful mornin', ah
Each bird keeps singin' his own song
So long!
I've got to be on my way now
Ain't no fun just hangin' around
I've got to cover ground; you couldn't keep me down
It just ain't no good if the sun shines
When you're still inside
Shouldn't hide, still inside, shouldn't hide
Ah, oh! (Shouldn't hide) Ah, ah, oh

(Doo, doo-wa) (Doo, doo-wa)

There will be children with robins and flowers
Sunshine caresses each new waking hour
Seems to me that the people keep seeing
More and more each day; gotta say, lead the way
It's okay, Wednesday, Thursday, it's okay
(Ah) Monday, Wednesday, Friday, weekday, ah, ah, oh

(Doo, doo-wa)

Ah, ah, oh, oh (do, doo-wa)
Woo, ooo, ooo, oh, oh, oh, ah, woo, doo-wa
Oh, oh, oh, oh

Dear Beverly

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Good morning, stopped in to say hello.

          Oh Doll, you remembered me.

Always.

Have a tune for you today.

“I remember when I lost my mind,” it was on an August evening.

“Bless your soul, you really think you’re in control?”

My guess is that you thought you were.

Of course you took control … and that is what makes it so incredibly sad.

http://youtu.be/lAIvDj0PW94

I remember when
I remember, I remember when I lost my mind
There was something so pleasant about that place
Even your emotions have an echo in so much space

And when you're out there, without care
Yeah, I was out of touch
But it wasn't because I didn't know enough
I just knew too much

Does that make me crazy?
Does that make me crazy?
Does that make me crazy?
Possibly

And now that you are having the time of your life
Well think twice
That's my only advice

Come on now
Who do you
Who do you
Who do you
Who do you think you are?
Ha ha ha
Bless your soul
You really think you're in control?
Well

I think you're crazy
I think you're crazy
I think you're crazy
Just like me

My heroes had the heart
To live the life I wanna live
And all I remember is thinking
I wanna be like them
Mmhmm
Ever since I was little
Ever since I was little, it looked like fun
And as no coincidence I've come
And I can die when I'm done

Maybe I'm crazy
Maybe you're crazy
Maybe we're crazy
Probably

Dear Beverly

You were on my mind this morning ... and always in my heart.

             Mi Amor, you remembered me.

Always.

If half of the people in the world
just loved one other human being without conditions,
Then half the battle would be won.

With the roar of control, bullying and abuse
It is so very hard for some to "hear" and "feel"
that love given without condition.

Have a tune for you today
A bit different ... enjoy.

Black Eyed Peas: Where is the Love?

What's wrong with the world, mama
People livin' like they ain't got no mamas
I think the whole world addicted to the drama
Only attracted to things that'll bring you trauma

Overseas, yeah, we try to stop terrorism
But we still got terrorists here livin'
In the USA, the big CIA
The Bloods and The Crips and the KKK

But if you only have love for your own race
Then you only leave space to discriminate
And to discriminate only generates hate
And when you hate then you're bound to get irate, yeah

Madness is what you demonstrate
And that's exactly how anger works and operates
Man, you gotta have love just to set it straight
Take control of your mind and meditate
Let your soul gravitate to the love, y'all, y'all

People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek

Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love (Love)

Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love (The love)
Where is the love, the love, the love

It just ain't the same, always unchanged
New days are strange, is the world insane
If love and peace are so strong
Why are there pieces of love that don't belong

Nations droppin' bombs
Chemical gasses fillin' lungs of little ones
With ongoin' sufferin' as the youth die young
So ask yourself is the lovin' really gone

So I could ask myself really what is goin' wrong
In this world that we livin' in people keep on givin' in
Makin' wrong decisions, only visions of them dividends
Not respectin' each other, deny thy brother
A war is goin' on but the reason's undercover

The truth is kept secret, it's swept under the rug
If you never know truth then you never know love
Where's the love, y'all, come on (I don't know)
Where's the truth, y'all, come on (I don't know)
Where's the love, y'all

People killin', people dyin'
Children hurt and you hear them cryin'
Can you practice what you preach
And would you turn the other cheek

Father, Father, Father help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love (Love)

Where is the love (The love)?
Where is the love (The love)?
Where is the love, the love, the love?

I feel the weight of the world on my shoulder
As I'm gettin' older, y'all, people gets colder
Most of us only care about money makin'
Selfishness got us followin' our wrong direction

Wrong information always shown by the media
Negative images is the main criteria
Infecting the young minds faster than bacteria
Kids wanna act like what they see in the cinema

Yo', whatever happened to the values of humanity
Whatever happened to the fairness in equality
Instead of spreading love we're spreading animosity
Lack of understanding, leading us away from unity

That's the reason why sometimes I'm feelin' under
That's the reason why sometimes I'm feelin' down
There's no wonder why sometimes I'm feelin' under
Gotta keep my faith alive till love is found
Now ask yourself

Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Where is the love?
Where is the love?

Father, Father, Father, help us
Send some guidance from above
'Cause people got me, got me questionin'
Where is the love?

Sing with me y'all:
One world, one world (We only got)
One world, one world (That's all we got)
One world, one world
And something's wrong with it (Yeah)
Something's wrong with it (Yeah)
Something's wrong with the wo-wo-world, yeah
We only got
(One world, one world)
That's all we got
(One world, one world)

Dear Beverly

Just stopped by this morning to say hello.

           You remembered me.

Always.

It still comes back, in waves.
The sadness of it all.
The why of it all.   

If it was about control, then that just smacks of insanity.
If it was about control, then you had the last word.

No letter yesterday from one you lovely so deeply.
Worrisome.   Maybe tomorrow.
He owes me one, with a happy story about you.

Have a tune for you this morning ... enjoy.

Link:  Savage Garden: Truly, Madly, Deeply


I'll be your dream
I'll be your wish I'll be your fantasy
I'll be your hope I'll be your love
Be everything that you need
I'll love you more with every breath
Truly, madly, deeply do
I will be strong I will be faithful
'cause I'm counting on
A new beginning
A reason for living
A deeper meaning, yeah

I want to stand with you on
a mountain
I want to bathe with you in the sea
I want to lay like this forever
Until the sky falls down on me

And when the stars are shining
brightly in the velvet sky,
I'll make a wish send it to heaven
Then make you want to cry
The tears of joy for all the
pleasure and the certainty
That we're surrounded by the
comfort and protection of
The highest powers
In lonely hours
The tears devour you

I want to stand with you on
a mountain
I want to bathe with you in the sea
I want to lay like this forever
Until the sky falls down on me

Oh can you see it baby?
You don't have to close your eyes
'Cause it's standing right
before you
All that you need will surely come

I'll be your dream I'll be your wish
I'll be your fantasy
I'll be your hope I'll be your love
Be everything that you need
I'll love you more with every breath
Truly, madly, deeply do

I want to stand with you on
a mountain
I want to bathe with you in the sea
I want to lay like this forever
Until the sky falls down on me

I want to stand with you on a
mountain
I want to bathe with you in the sea
I want to live like this forever
Until the sky falls down on me 

Dear Beverly

Hello, stopped by to say hello.

             Hi Doll, you remembered me.

Always.

Trying to put my anger and heartbreak on hold for a second day.
We shall see how that goes.

Hoping for a letter today ... overdue.

Have a tune for you today ... enjoy.

Gordon Lightfoot: Sundown

I can see her lyin' back in her SATIN dress
In a room where ya do what ya don't confess
Sundown ya better take care
If I find you been creepin' 'round my back stairs
Sundown ya better take care
If I find you been creepin' 'round my back stairs
She's been lookin' like a queen in a sailor's dream
And she don't always say what she really means
Sometimes I think it's a shame
When I get feelin' better when I'm feelin' no pain
Sometimes I think it's a shame
When I get feelin' better when I'm feelin' no pain

I can picture every move that a man could make
Getting lost in her lovin' is your first mistake
Sundown ya better take care
If I find you been creepin' 'round my back stairs
Sometimes I think it's a sin
When I feel like I'm winnin' when I'm losin again

I can see her lookin' fast in her faded jeans
She's a hard lovin' woman, got me feelin' mean
Sometimes I think it's a shame
When I get feelin' better when I'm feelin' no pain
Sundown ya better take care
If I find you been creepin' 'round my back stairs
Sundown ya better take care
If I find you been creepin' 'round my back stairs
Sometimes I think it's a sin
When I feel like I'm winnin' when I'm losin' again

Dear Beverly

Just stopped in to say hello.

          Mi Amor, you remembered me.

Always

I will put aside the anger for today.
The heartbreak and sadness are banished today.

Instead, it is time to celebrate what you loved ... your tunes.
Love how you would call them "tunes."   Tunes.   Funny.

Not songs or music, but tunes.

Two of your favorites ... from different worlds.
You loved the music; the songs; the tunes.   So enjoy.

http://youtu.be/zwV2VM54CYA

I've got a funny feeling
The moment that your lips touched mine
Something shot right through me
My heart skipped a beat in time

There's a different feel about you tonight
It's got me thinkin' lots of crazy things
I even think I saw a flash of light
It felt like electricity

You shouldn't kiss me like this
Unless you mean it like that
Cause I'll just close my eyes
And I won't know where I'm at
We'll get lost on this dance floor
Spinnin' around
And around
And around
And around

They're all watchin' us now
They think we're falling in love
They'd never believe we're just friends
When you kiss me like this
I think you mean it like that
If you do baby kiss me again

Everybody swears we make the perfect pair
But dancing is as far as it goes
Girl you've never moved me quite
The way you moved me tonight
I just wanted you to know
I just wanted you to know

You shouldn't kiss me like this
Unless you mean it like that
Cause I'll just close my eyes
And I won't know where I'm at
We'll get lost on this dance floor
Spinnin' around
And around
And around
And around

They're all watchin' us now
They think we're falling in love
They'd never believe we're just friends
When you kiss me like this
I think you mean it like that
If you do baby kiss me again
Kiss me again

http://youtu.be/nWuZMBtrc1E

Hello again, it’s you and me
Kinda always like it used to be
Sippin' wine, killing time
Trying to solve life’s mysteries.
How’s your life, it’s been a while
God it’s good to see you smile
I see you reaching for your keys
Looking for a reason not to leave.

If you don’t know if you should stay
If you don’t say what’s on your mind
Baby just, breathe there’s no where else tonight we should be-
You wanna make a memory.

I dug up this old photograph
Look at all that hair we had
It’s bittersweet to hear you laugh
Your phone is ringing, I don’t wanna ask.

If you go now, I’ll understand
If you stay, hey, I got a plan
You wanna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You could sing a melody to me
And I could write a couple lines
You wanna make a memory.

If you don’t know if you should stay
And you don’t say what’s on your mind
Baby just, breathe there’s no where else tonight we should be-
You wanna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You could sing a melody to me
And I could write a couple lines
You wanna make a memory
You wanna make a memory 

Dear Beverly

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Just stopped in to say that you are in my heart throughout each day.

       You remembered me.

Always.

Still having trouble with understanding the insanity of it all.

I get the part about how you finally took control of your life.

I get that part.   I don’t like it, but I get it.

I don’t like where it took you.

I feel that I could have done so much more.

What I don’t get is the insanity.

What would you say about an ex-husband who surreptitiously monitors the phone bills of his divorced ex-wife?

Would that be a stalker?

By all accounts it was a nasty divorce that included:

Business bankruptcy

Personal bankruptcy.

The sale and division of what property remained.

A child with another woman.

Business lawsuits with partners in another state.

What if the same ex-husband then used those phone bills to try to intimate others?

Would that be a sociopath? 

I’m not a psychiatrist, so I’d only be guessing, but that sort of behavior seems sociopathic in nature to me. 

It is certainly not normal behavior by any standard.

What if that same ex-husband then made copies of those phone bills, highlighted certain calls made by his ex-wife in yellow marker and then hand-delivered those same phone records clandestinely with a hand written note that begins, “I appreciate of (sic) your trying to convince me that it was only catching up on old times.” 

He was referring to a phone conversation where a certain somebody — not me, I had my turn — drilled him a new ass hole for being a liar (pretending to be a dead man) and a stalker.  

He then finished the note by saying “Considering I felt that (names omitted) were back together.   Thanks for trying anyway.”   And then signed it “Your Friend.”

We called this — and the ones that followed — packages of hate.

Hmmmm?   How does that work, “back together?”  The ex-wife living under the protection of her mother in Newbury Park and that ex-husband living elsewhere … miles and miles away from Newbury Park.   How is that “back together?”  

A certain ex-husband not welcome — ever — into the ex-wife’s mother’s home. 

How is that “back together?”

That seems delusional, but then I’m not a psychiatrist.

I do know one thing, by benefit of what unfolded over the next four years, if this particular ex-husband would have been confronted on the front porch of his home on the same day that he delivered his first vile message of hate with a simple question, “what is your problem?,” then perhaps the final — very definitive — outcome might have been avoided.

We will never know.  

But people need to stand up to stalkers and bullies. 

They thrive when well-meaning people just hope and pray that they will get tired and go away. 

They never do.  

Seven packages of hate — hand delivered — over three years … five to one person (who finally called the sheriff), one to a relative (at her work) and one to a co-worker (at her work).  

Seven packages of hate, because he would not stop until, sadly, you took control of your life.

It has been over five months now and not a peep out of that ex-husband.

A tune for you today ... someday never came.

Taylor Swift: Mean

You, with your words like knives
And swords and weapons that you use against me
You have knocked me off my feet again
Got me feeling like I'm nothing
You, with your voice like nails on a chalkboard
Calling me out when I'm wounded
You picking on the weaker man

You can take me down with just one single blow
But you don't know, what you don't know...

Someday I'll be living in a big ol' city
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Someday I'll be big enough so you can't hit me
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Why you gotta be so mean?

You, with your switching sides
And your wildfire lies and your humiliation
You have pointed out my flaws again
As if I don't already see them
I walk with my head down
Trying to block you out 'cause I'll never impress you
I just wanna feel okay again

I bet you got pushed around
Somebody made you cold
But the cycle ends right now
'Cause you can't lead me down that road
And you don't know, what you don't know...

Someday I'll be living in a big ol' city
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Someday I'll be big enough so you can't hit me
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Why you gotta be so mean?

And I can see you years from now in a bar
Talking over a football game
With that same big loud opinion
But nobody's listening
Washed up and ranting about the same old bitter things
Drunk and grumbling on about how I can't sing
But all you are is mean

All you are is mean
And a liar, and pathetic, and alone in life
And mean, and mean, and mean, and mean

But someday I'll be living in a big ol' city
And all you're ever gonna be is mean, yeah
Someday I'll be big enough so you can't hit me
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Why you gotta be so?..

Someday I'll be living in a big ol' city (Why you gotta be so?..)
And all you're ever gonna be is mean (Why you gotta be so?..)
Someday I'll be big enough so you can't hit me (Why you gotta be so?..)
And all you're ever gonna be is mean
Why you gotta be so mean? 

Dear Beverly

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You’ve been on my mind and in my heart, so I just stopped by to say hello.

        Mi Amor, you remembered me.

Always.

Hoping for a letter today.

Wondering how goes it with someone you loved with all of your heart.

Have a tune of a different stripe for you today … a fun one, enjoy.

Jimmy Buffet: Changes in Latitudes

I took off for a weekend last month
Just to try and recall the whole year
All of the faces and all of the places
Wonderin’ where they all disappeared
I didn't ponder the question too long
I was hungry and went out for a bite
Ran into a chum with a bottle of rum
And we wound up drinkin’ all night

Its these changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes
Nothing remains quite the same
With all of our running and all of our cunning
If we couldn’t laugh we would all go insane

Reading departure signs in some big airport
Reminds me of the places I’ve been
Visions of good times that brought so much pleasure
Makes me want to go back again
If it suddenly ended tomorrow
I could somehow adjust to the fall
Good times and riches and son of a bitches
I’ve seen more than I can recall

These changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes
Nothing remains quite the same
Through all of the islands and all of the highlands
If we couldnt laugh we would all go insane

I think about Paris when I’m high on red wine
I wish I could jump on a plane
So many nights I just dream of the ocean
God I wish I was sailin’ again
Oh, yesterdays over my shoulder
So I can't look back for too long
There's just too much to see waiting in front of me
And I know that I just can't go wrong

With these changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes
Nothing remains quite the same
With all of my running and all of my cunning
If I couldn’t laugh I just would go insane
If we couldn’t laugh we just would go insane
If we weren’t all crazy we would go insane

Dear Beverly

Just stopped by to say hello.

         Oh Doll, you remembered me.

Always.

Sunny day.
Cool nights.
Autumn in Southern California.

Have a tune for you today ... a little country for you, enjoy.

Kelly Clarkson: Don't Rush 

Let's wake up in the afternoon

Pretend that we got nothing to do
No we don't have to go by any agenda
We can make up our own rules
I see the way you're looking at me
Baby know I'm feeling it too
We can just light up every candle
Move from room to room

Stopping every minute just because you're in it
Wishing everyday was Sunday, you're right next to me
It's how it's supposed to be
Hanging on every touch
Baby don't rush, no no
Baby don't rush

Throw the map out of the window
Taking the long way around
To a secret place where no one could find us
A little place we can call our own
Come over here and take a picture
Something we can hang on to
We can look back and try to remember
All the crazy things we gonna do

Stopping every minute just because you're in it
Wishing everyday was Sunday, you're right next to me
It's how it's supposed to be
Just hanging on every touch
Baby don't rush
Baby don't rush

Stopping every minute just because you're in it
Stopping every minute just because you're in it
Stopping every minute

Stopping every minute just because you're in it
Wishing everyday was Sunday, you're right next to me
It's how it's supposed to be

Stopping every minute just because you're in it
Wishing everyday was Sunday, you're right next to me
It's how it's supposed to be (supposed to be)
Just hanging on every touch
Baby don't rush no no
Baby don't rush (Baby don't rush)
Baby don't rush

Dear Beverly

Just stopped in to say hello.

            You remembered me.

Always.

Back in the safety of your mother's home in January of 2009.
That sly look ... come on, smile.
Each day you got stronger.

Have a tune for you today ... enjoy.

Ben E. King: Stand by Me

When the night has come
And the land is dark
And the moon is the only light we'll see
No I won't be afraid
Oh, I won't be afraid
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

So darling, darling
Stand by me, oh stand by me
Oh stand, stand by me
Stand by me

If the sky that we look upon
Should tumble and fall
All the mountains should crumble to the sea
I won't cry, I won't cry
No, I won't shed a tear
Just as long as you stand, stand by me

And darling, darling
Stand by me, oh stand by me
Oh stand now, stand by me
Stand by me

So darling, darling
Stand by me, oh stand by me
Oh stand now, stand by me, stand by me
Whenever you're in trouble won't you stand by me
Oh stand by me, oh won't you stand now, stand
Stand by me

Dear Beverly

I was thinking about you this morning ... stopped by to say just that.

             Mi Amor, you remembered me.

Always.

Found this old photograph of the two of us at Binion's Horseshoe.
Clearly drapes were sacrificed for that outfit.
Although I think Fran would have been glad to see them go!!!

Were we ever that young?
Compare it to this one over 37 years later.
Still the same beautiful smile.

Sounds like the perfect opportunity for that Bon Jovi "tune" that you loved so much.

"I dug up this old photograph ... Look at all that hair we had"  So true.

Enjoy.

http://youtu.be/nWuZMBtrc1E

Hello again, it’s you and me
Kinda always like it used to be
Sippin' wine, killing time
Trying to solve life’s mysteries.
How’s your life, it’s been a while
God it’s good to see you smile
I see you reaching for your keys
Looking for a reason not to leave.

If you don’t know if you should stay
If you don’t say what’s on your mind
Baby just, breathe there’s no where else tonight we should be-
You wanna make a memory.

I dug up this old photograph
Look at all that hair we had
It’s bittersweet to hear you laugh
Your phone is ringing, I don’t wanna ask.

If you go now, I’ll understand
If you stay, hey, I got a plan
You wanna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You could sing a melody to me
And I could write a couple lines
You wanna make a memory.

If you don’t know if you should stay
And you don’t say what’s on your mind
Baby just, breathe there’s no where else tonight we should be-
You wanna make a memory
You wanna steal a piece of time
You could sing a melody to me
And I could write a couple lines
You wanna make a memory
You wanna make a memory

Dear Beverly

Stopped in to say that you are in my heart.

        You remembered me.

Always.

In the summer of 2010, when you weren’t looking, all of your stuff was rummaged through and he used what he found to fire off yet another package of hate. 

The summer of 2010 saw the vice of control begin to tighten.

Once you lost the protection of your mother in December of 2009, it became so easy to inflict pain.

It must have been the magical concoction known as Pinkberry that set him off, or as you would call them Pink(sssss)berry! 

“Pink(sssss)berry, yummy,” you’d say.  

Could it have been the threat of these magical little tubs of yogurt and fruit that triggered such fear? 

If you ate enough of them, then perhaps the stalker’s spell would be broken? 

Was that it?

How is it even possible that that a simple thing like a holiday greeting card and an enclosed Pinkberry (oops, Pink(sssss)berry) gift card could be so twisted into an instrument to inflict pain?  

How evil is that? 

How is the thoughtfulness of a gift card such a threat? 

It was a reminder that you were not alone.

Was that the threat? 

Was it this simple reminder that you were not alone that triggered such venom?

What is it with people like that? 

I can’t even get my head around it.

Maybe all of us — each of us as individuals — should just reach out to our friends and family from time to time, quite randomly, and send little reminders that they too are not alone. 

Flowers unexpectedly; without an occasion … “was thinking of you.”  

A card to people we care about out of the blue, “just wanted to say hello.”

Does it always have to be a birthday or some Hallmark holiday to express these little acts of kindness and caring?

A stranger passing by, “good morning.”  Nothing more than a smile and a greeting.

What does it cost you?

The cashier at the supermarket, “How are you today?” 

The lady with packages at the post office, “Let me get that door for you.”

What does it cost you?

A simple thing like a Pink(sssss)berry gift card brought a smile to your face.

There are not enough Pink(sssss)berry gift cards in the world to bring one more of your lovely smiles to this world … not enough to bring yet another twinkle to your eye.

Not enough to hear you say one more time, “Pink(sssss)berry, yummy.”

And I am not supposed to be angry?

How can I set aside the hatred of a stalker; a bully; a control freak?

In the end you took control … you had the last word on the subject.

So sad … it is so incredibly sad.

Have a tune for you today … enjoy.

http://youtu.be/f2H-GiiDfnE

If you see your brother standing by the road
With a heavy load from the seeds he's sowed
And if you see your sister falling by the way
Just stop and stay you're going the wrong way

You got to try a little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you'll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

Don't walk around the down and out
Lend a helping hand instead of doubt
And the kindness that you show every day
Will help someone along their way

You got to try a little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you'll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

You got to try a little kindness
Yes show a little kindness
Just shine your light for everyone to see
And if you try a little kindness
Then you'll overlook the blindness
Of narrow-minded people on the narrow-minded streets

Dear Beverly

Just stopped in to say hello.

             Hi Doll, you remembered me.

Always.

Rainy, gloomy and colder (well, cooler anyway).
A melancholy day full of gray skies.
Cats won't be happy.  

Tune today ... enjoy

Everclear: Sunflowers

I know where you go when you want to fall
Why do you want to be broken?
I know where you go when you want to fall
Yes your friends they tell me everything

Yes I know where you go
Yes I know what you do
Yes I know the awful things you say and who you say them to
Yes I know where you go
Yes I know what you do

I know how you feel, you get crazy inside
They say it runs in the family
I know just how you feel when you get crazy inside
Your mom she said that you are just like me

I can see it in your eyes
I can see your shaky hands
Yes I think you think I'm stupid
You don't think I understand
Yes I see you and I see myself when I was a younger man

When you were a child
You were happy and free
You were my reason to live
I would die when you smiled at me

I can still see you
I remember you painting
Sunflowers in your room

I know where you go when you want to fall
Hey don't you want to be happy?
I know where you go when you want to fall
Your useless friends, they tell me everything

Everything
I see you run around in circles
I see you digging your own hole
I see you fight the fights you just can't win
I see you losing self control
What it does to me deep down inside I hope you will never know

When you were a child
You were happy and free
You were my reason to live
I would die when you smiled at me

I can still see you
Painting flowers on the wall
I remember you happy
I remember it all
All I want to remember
Pretty pictures on the wall
I remember you happy
I remember it all
All I want to remember
Sunflowers in your room

Dear Beverly

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Stopped in to say hello.

         You remembered me.

Always.

Change in the weather, again.

That time of year … getting dark earlier.

Can get you down.

How about something to brighten it up,

Some good old rock ‘n’ roll … rock on.

Have a tune for you today that does just that ... enjoy.

 Link: Bob Seger: Old Time Rock and Roll  

Just take those old records off the shelf

I'll sit and listen to 'em by m'self

Today's music ain't got the same soul

I like that old time rock and roll

Don't try to take me to a Disco

You'll never even get me out on the floor

In 10 minutes I'll be late for the door

I like that old time rock and roll

Still like that old time rock and roll

The kinda music just soothes the soul

I reminisce about the days of old

With that old time rock and roll

Won't go to hear 'em play a Tango

I'd rather hear some blues or funky old soul

There's only one sure way to get me to go

Start playin' old time rock and roll

Call me a relic call me what'cha will

Say I'm old fashioned say I'm over the hill

Today's music ain't got the same soul

I like that old time rock and roll

Still like that old time rock and roll

The kinda music just soothes the soul

I reminisce about the days of old

With that old time rock and roll